Sunday, June 20, 2010

Becoming Bewildered By Besottedness

Mind you, I wrote this very late at night so if some of it doesn't seem concluded, that's why.
I watched the movie "Becoming Jane" tonight, not the first time and certainly not the last. And as an affect I have stumbled upon an enlightenment. I have no experience with this thing called love, or at least what we think of first when it is mentioned. Yet I know by the movies and the novels that true love is most desired. And yet, now I must ask what is true love? Is it the burning passion of youth that most associate with the term, or is it the slow smoldering of memories and friendship?
"Affection is desirable." Is it? What exactly is affection? Do not friends feel affection? Do not families feel affection? Aren't they supposed to? I believe that the deprival of affection stirs a desire within us that can make us unlike anything we ever thought we'd be. It makes the blind see and the sane mad. The human heart needs affection. So yes, affection is desirable, and necessary.
Yet what associates love and affection with youth? Is it our under developed frontal lobes that make us so dramatic it makes people sick? Do not the elderly experience love as the term is with affection? Are not marriages meant to last until one is old and past a loved one's death? We were created for love, for passion and heat, for affection, for friends, for family, and some how we've forgotten that we were created for something beautiful. We see and want the beauty and yet we have abused and forgotten the way to get there. There is nothing more depressing than the fact that to experience "real love" by our terms, we first must feel heartbreak which is soon mended by a loose patch. In our sod state we have come to the conclusion that love, true affection, can only be felt by a broken heart and so we break hearts, we've broken hearts, and we will keep breaking hearts until we finally find it.
True love. Happily Ever After. We live in a world of desires, affection being one of them. We desire affection. We desire perfect endings. We desire fairy tales and "prince charmings", and we desire those things because we cannot realize that they are not fairy tales. They are life and love and laughter. They are the blessings of God. So God bless you with a "Happily Ever After", because even if you don't think he does, he did.

-M
M Word of the Post
Moonstruck- adj. unable to think or act normally, esp. because of being in love.

Another Word of the Post Just Cuz
besotted- adj. strongly infatuated; intoxicated; drunk (although the last two meanings are not connected with my use of the word)

2 comments:

  1. Umm- please publish this. Oh please oh please oh please publish it.

    -K

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  2. shut up. you publish it... where would i publish it? and as what?
    _mnm

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